Things to keep in mind

Some general values about discipline include:

• Be a good role model for your child.

• Try to recognize and praise your child when they are being good.

• Make sure rewards for good behavior happen right away.

• Hug your child after using discipline. Make sure the child knows it’s the behavior you’re not happy with, not your child.

• Don’t use physical punishment.

How to lessen unwanted behavior

Try not to reward a child or give positive support for a bad behavior. For example, if your child is having a tantrum, giving them a cookie to be quiet is a reward for the bad behavior. To help lessen bad behavior, try these tactics:

• Don’t give positive support for bad behavior. Instead, try ignoring the behavior as long as it is not dangerous behavior.

• Have the behavior result in an unpleasant result, such as punishment.

Punishment has 2 forms, including:

• Denying your child privileges or a desired activity. This may be limiting TV or screen time or saying "no" to dessert.

• Requiring an activity that isn’t fun. This may include doing chores or having a “time out.”

A behavior can also have a natural result that’s like punishment. For example, a child who won’t eat may go to bed hungry.

Keep in mind that spanking and other forms of physical punishment aren’t helpful. This type of discipline teaches a child aggressive behavior.

Tips for discipline by age

Discipline often depends on the age of a child, and how much they understand their behavior. These are some tips for discipline by age group.

Babies and toddlers

• Safety is the main concern. Provide a safe environment that decreases the chances of things being broken by the child.

• Babies will respond to a loud, firm voice saying "no."

• After saying "no," direct your child to a good behavior, such as a toy.

• Don’t reward bad behavior. Ignore temper tantrums. But confront other problems, such as biting or hitting.

• Praise and reward good behavior.

Preschoolers

• Preschoolers need clear and consistent rules.

• This age group needs time to get ready for the next activity. Give your child a warning before it’s time to stop playing.

• Preschoolers need lots of explanation as to why things are being done.

• Use time-out for bad behavior. Use 1 minute for each year of age.

• Use praise for good behavior.

School-aged children

• Give your child chances to explain their side and opinion.

• Let your child express their feelings and concerns.

• Give your child choices.

• Give your child chances to help solve problems together regarding their behavior.

Teens

• This age group needs patient and understanding parents. They will test all limits.

• Teens need to be told the long-term outcomes of bad behaviors.

• Teens need to be involved with limit-setting, based on their maturity.